Gill writes:
Maybe it’s because we’ve had Valentine’s Day this week; or perhaps it’s because the Church of England went public about gender-neutral pronouns for God; or perhaps it’s because I have heard this song playing away in the background in shops and on the radio – whatever it is, this song has been at the forefront of my mind in the last few days.
The music of Howard Jones arrived at a sweet spot in my teenage years and gave a voice to my inner thoughts. His songs encouraged me to see both sides and throw off your mental chains; to get to know people well and to reach the real you inside; not to always look at the rain and to ponder what is love.
When I was training to be a Reader, we were tasked with coming up with a sentence or two that might describe God to someone who hadn’t heard of God before. As you can imagine, there were all sorts of descriptions but most of them contained something appertaining to God being love. Apart from one person – whose experience of parental love left them feeling cold when God is described as love.
I’ve written before about the different types of love, and it occurs to me that those of us who think of God as love might be influenced by the type known as agape – unconditional, sacrificial love.
I love you whether or not you love me
I love you even if you think that I don’t
Sometimes I find you doubt my love for you
But I don’t mind
Why should I mind?
Why should I mind?
Love challenges us and questions our assumptions. Love leads us to want to change. Love turns our world, and what we know of it, upside down at times. Love enables us to doubt. Doubt is something that some Christians fear so they might deny they have doubts, or they might just shy away from discussing them. But doubt is the thing that leads us to think, question and understand more deeply. As Pete Rollins puts it “To believe is human, to doubt divine.”
Can anybody love anyone so much that they will never fear?
Never worry, never be sad?
The answer is they cannot love this much, nobody can
This is why I don’t mind you doubting
The verse that resonated so much for me as a teenager is the third one. And it still does today. For many of us, our teenage years are the time when we’re most aware of having expectations placed upon us, or expectations that we worry we can’t live up to, of people telling us who they think we are and what we’re capable of. It’s the time when we kick back and assert our need for space to develop in the way God created us. Having space and nourishing environments for us to know and grow about ourselves and others is vital to our being human.
And maybe love is letting people be just what they want to be
The door always must be left unlocked
To love when circumstance may lead someone away from you
And not to spend the time just doubting
The key to knowing God’s love is to love yourself (you are fearfully and wonderfully made), then you can love others and the world which God not only created for all life, but entrusted us with. Letting love shape and direct our lives offers worship and love for God – and this is what Jesus taught and showed us to do.
So yes Howard, anybody can love anybody anyway, if they’re following the path that Jesus put them on.
Howard Jones is still making music – and you can find out more about what he’s up to here – http://www.howardjones.com/index.html