The FF today comes with a bit of a health warning about issues of domestic violence so please do proceed with caution
Jane writes:
Every year the MP Jess Phillips has the uncomfortable privilege of reading out the names of those women killed by acts of domestic violence. It’s a salutary experience to listen to the names of real humans no longer living because they were trapped in situations that claimed to be about love and were anything but.
This song today by Shallow Alcove came to me from nowhere, a chance encounter if you like. Its beautiful haunting melody and vocal hide though a kind of sinister reality where someone finds themselves in a place that feels so uncomfortable that it seems reasonable to hurt themselves:
I’m pulling out my teeth
I’m gnawing off my own leg
For years I’ve been asleep, but I
Woke up in a bad bed
A reality where the hope is always for something better, safe and more than there is:
I thought I’d get
Something more than this
It’s a tragic truth that lots of people in our society, men and women, are living with the stress of relationships that demonstrate none of the love that God advocates for as described in scripture.
A love that is patient & kind. That keeps no record of wrongs. That does not dishonour others. That is not self-seeking or easily angered. I could go on.
People living in such difficult contexts should not have to. It is not the way it should be and it is not the way it has to be but, as the lyricist suggests, for some people
It’s safer to play dead
and pull the covers over your head
What kind of world is it where that is the case, and what is ours to do to make it otherwise I wonder?
What can we do to advocate for a different way today? Because I am as certain as the songwriter that there must be something better, something more.
You can find out more about Shallow Alcove here https://www.shallowalcove.com/
And you might like to take a look at these spaces to see what might be yours to do
White Ribbon Campaign: https://www.whiteribbon.org.uk/
Refuge: https://refuge.org.uk/
Mankind: https://mankind.org.uk/