Gill writes:
1991. The Lamb and Packet pub in Preston, Lancashire. A Sunday night in the summer. My best friend Andrea’s last summer living in the UK before she emigrated to the States. A group of around 6 young women full of the joys of life, chattering away and suddenly the voice of Don McLean interjects with ‘A long, long time ago‘ and everything changes.
The chattering stops. We all look at each other. Someone punches the air with a ‘yes’ and we’re off- joining in with ‘I can still remember how that music used to make me smile‘. And that is it for the next 8 and a half minutes. Fingers dancing, faces contorted in a variety of expressions and the beats being drummed by hands banging on the table.
Halfway through, the male contingent of the friendship group enter the pub, know exactly where we are (thanks to our dulcet tones) and join us immediately in the song. Because it’s ‘our song’. The song that connected us. Newcomers to the group gained greater respect when they joined in with singing ‘American Pie’. We weren’t an unwelcoming bunch at all but once you joined in with our song, you were definitely in!
Singing together is really good for you. But I’m sure you know this already. A particular piece of research from the University of Oxford in 2015 (https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/full/10.1098/rsos.150221) affirmed that singing in groups helps to ‘break the ice’ really quickly which in turn means that social bonding happens faster. Singing together is really effective in helping large, diverse groups to bond but as I said at the beginning – you know this already.
So did John and Charles Wesley. It’s often said that Methodists were ‘born in song’ and singing enthusiastically, with gusto, is a reputation that continues. It’s thought that the Wesley brothers saw how singing can be a powerful, galvanising force when they experienced a fierce storm in the Atlantic on their way to Georgia in 1736. A group of German Moravian Christians who were travelling with them sang and prayed together which gave them the strength to see the situation through in a calmer way than the other passengers.
Singing together – whether as a choir, a congregation, a crowd at a concert or a bunch of friends at a party or down the pub – is good for us as an individual and for us as a society. It’s brilliant for our health – physiologically and mentally. It’s how we express ourselves. It’s how we connect with others. It can build bridges and break down barriers.
For Christians, singing together helps to explore the Word deeper, to express beliefs and understanding and builds each other up. Ephesian 5:19 says ‘addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart‘.
Back to Andrea. It’s a hot summer evening in 2015. Floating on my back in a pool in a garden in San Diego, California. The local radio station is playing in the background. The song changes. The voice of Don McLean breaks into the air with ‘A long, long time ago‘ and I join in with ‘I can still remember how that music used to make me smile‘ with a little ‘yay’ and a grin at Andrea, who is at the other end of the pool – and we’re off, singing at the tops of our voices relentlessly for the next 8 or so minutes.
If you want to see what Don McLean is up to these days, visit https://donmclean.com/